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Today I tread wearily on a subject that has caused untold pain to a lot of men world wide. Personally I feel blessed despite all the mayhem of my personal life. I have the unconditional love of two wonderful daughters for whom I shall gladly suffer whatever the life can throw at me. They are my best friends, my pride and my joy and most of all my reason to live. They gave me enough strength to face my demons with my head held high and I am succeeding, slowly but surely. I was speaking to a newly acquired friend of mine who always seems to be amused whenever I call, so today I dare ask the reason of her laughter. The answer was heart warming when she stated that I always seem to be in such good form that she found that surprising.
Well we all have our crosses to bear but that should not stop us from living a life that should befit a decent human being. Without feelings or emotions what kind of a person can we be? We all need a reason to live. To me the most precious commodity on this planet of ours is love, unconditional love, whatever shape or form it may take. Priorities change, so do people and their circumstances. But that euphoria of being in love is such that the limitations of our vocabulary are inept and inadequate for its description. It gives you the infallibility that only you can possess and gives you the feeling of walking on air. So why should you let circumstances drag you down into the depths of despair where there is nothing but darkness and disparity. Where there is light there is hope and vice versa. I just refuse to lie down and be downtrodden. How dare anyone think they have the right to dictate as to how I live and what I feel. Find something positive in your life and make it your crutch. You may limp a little, you may fall a few times but let your pride keep your chin high and dignity intact.
I have simple tastes and even a simpler philosophy in life. For those who are my friends have something to gain and for those who are my enemies, its their loss. I never ask for much so why should others be allowed to take what’s mine. My pride, my joy, my dignity and my self respect but most of all the love of my nearest and dearest, especially my children.
Here comes the subject that I mentioned earlier. So many people have asked to address the issue of Fathers who are falsely accused of sexual abuse. Those involved in the creation of the present social climate should be ashamed of themselves for creating an atmosphere of helplessness and making fathers uncomfortable towards their children for fear of allegation.
Lets just touch this subject for now. I shall refer to a survey conducted in Australia by Professor Lesley Barclay on Fatherhood. The results of his interviews with 300 health and social workers were extremely illuminating. The 300 believed that physical and sexual abuse of children by fathers was higher than the statistics showed. Half believed that one in five fathers sexually abused their children and one third said the same percentage of fathers were guilty of sexual abuse of their children.
Two things to note.
Firstly this was their personal belief without any comprehensive studies or concrete proof.
Secondly one can safely assume for this to be fairly representative of their fellow workers.
Hence simple maths will tell us that one in five males is a criminal who should be imprisoned. Be afraid, be very very afraid as we are surrounded by paedophiles and child abusers. Who says so, but of course the enlightened social workers who can persecute men because of their false perceptions, incompetence and impunity due to immunity granted to them by the government. They deem themselves to be accountable to no one. Here is an element of irony that should amuse most if not all. These so called professionals are from the very bottom rung of the educational ladder hence their intellect and aptitude should be open to question, most of the time if not always. Frightening or what?
A little story to amuse those who enjoy the little pleasures in life.
A French father who was falsely accused by his estranged wife of committing sexual abuse against their child, obtained a symbolic condemnation of his former wife, a first in French family court. After three years of court battles she was condemned by the judge yet penalised One Franc. Such priceless wisdom should warm the cockles of your heart. I can see every woman shaking in her ill fitting stilettos with the fear of god instilled in her by such wisdom.
Here is a free piece of advice to all those in corridors of power, no PR charges, no exchange of envelopes.
Take note of two of the most important principles in life that have been around for years and hopefully shall till the kingdom come;
First. Innocent till proven guilty. Believe in it, apply it, enforce it
Common Law. Its called the law of Tort. Never mind Latin, most of us have trouble with simple English. It simply means common sense. If the law is based on common sense then why is it so rare? Now there is food for thought. Happy thoughts and sweet dreams. zzzzzzzz